As a licensed massage therapist, I can tell you a lot of people who are new to massage and even some returning clients just don’t know how to relax. Most returning clients have relaxing down to an art. They are quick to relax, but they are also ready in one minute after the session is over. The biggest mistake people can make is “doing it wrong” or not relaxing enough.
#1 You’re doing it wrong!
A lot of people count time watching television or spending time on social media as “relaxing”. This is not true relaxation. Often people keep their minds busy at work or school. When they come home, they “unwind” by watching television or being on social media, but your body doesn’t count this as relaxation because your mind is still active. The best kind of relaxation can help your body, mind, and spirit rejuvenate.
#2 Change the Pace!
If you have a job where you are not physically active, working out is an important way to break the lack of physical momentum. When people exercise they breathe and most people don’t do enough conscious breathing. Deep breathing helps a person connect with divine inspiration. Working out helps to clear out mind clutter and flood the body with feel good chemicals. Conversely, if you have a very physically active job, change the pace of your day by relaxing into the stillness of meditation. This activity also gives you the opportunity to engage in deep breathing.
#3 You’re Not Relaxing Enough!
I have people that come in once a month for a massage, but they still don’t do any stretching or meditation any other time. Receiving massage monthly or even weekly massage is beneficial, but daily care is the best. Do your body, mind, and spirit a favor by relaxing regularly. I like to take 20-30 minutes in the morning to do gentle yoga in my backyard. Committing to a daily relaxation and self-care routine helps you to be the best version of you that you can be.
Eva Borho, M.A., L.M.T., Writer, Intuitive Life Coach, and Holy Fire Reiki Master Teacher